In part one, I discussed Terence Watts’ unique theory concerning who our Ancient Ancestors were. Including how they lived and how they exhibited unique traits across three distinctly different behavioral groups (Warriors, Settlers, and Nomads).
- Warriors are decisive, strategic thinkers, and determined to reach their goals.
- Settlers are outgoing, sociable, and creative. They also seek approval from others.
- Nomads are independently-minded, creative, and are resistant to authority.
Here’s where the fun (or the challenge) comes in – and why the Warriors, Settlers and Nomads concept (WSN for short) is so revealing.
Here’s an example of the Warriors, Settlers, Nomads Concept
My neighbor’s daughter, who was adopted at age 2, turned out to be largely a Nomad. She had difficulty with authority both at school and at home. As a teenager, she ran away from home frequently, sometimes staying away for days on end.
Meanwhile, her mother became more assertive and protective, as a Warrior would. They often clashed, as the Warrior mom was doing her best to protect a Nomad girl who neither wanted nor needed protection. Once I explained the inherent conflict between a Warrior mother and Nomadic daughter, she became more understanding and began to use language that a Nomad would be more inclined to accept, thereby diminishing conflict.
Learning WSN can empower you and enhance your communication skills in the following situations…
- You’re a Settler boss, but you have a Warrior employee. How do you keep him motivated while preventing conflict with other employees?
- You can be a Settler amongst your friends and family, but a Warrior at work. A friend of mine works in the IT Department for a well-known company in Portland. She’s a Warrior at her job. However, her boss is a Nomad. The boss is unsure of herself and often defers to her team for suggestions, yet she won’t utilize their ideas. This drives my friend crazy. With a very insecure Nomad for a boss, I advised her, it might be time to look elsewhere for a new job.
The Warriors, Settlers, Nomads concept is an excellent tool for helping improve your communication with others as well as helping you adopt new traits that weren’t part of your inherited traits.
If you would like to try it out, sign up for a complimentary session today!
We rarely think of exactly how our ancient ancestors managed to survive the extremely harsh conditions of gathering food, hunting wooly mammoths, childbirth, and avoiding disease. While the odds of survival were much less likely than today, those who did make it had incredibly strong willpower.
The concept I’m about to share with you was introduced to me a few years ago by Terence Watts, whose reputation many of you are familiar with. Instinct is a very strong determinant of behavior. This is evidenced by the fact that a specific species of sea turtles have laid their eggs on the exact same beach for thousands of years.
Instinct played an equally important role in the evolution of Neanderthals. Yet, as they wandered the terrain of Eurasia, this group of primitive humans could be divided into 3 groups, each exhibiting strong behavioral characteristics:
- Some aggressively defended their group from invading marauders at all costs
- Some formed communities in fertile areas to grow food, but were less likely to defend themselves
- Some preferred to wander off alone or in very small groups, following their own rules for survival.
These three ancestral groups could be broadly categorized as:
Given the evolution of each group over time, various distinct behavioral traits emerged among each group. Warriors exhibited tendencies to be determined, decisive and strategic thinkers. Settlers were creative, sought approval from others, and tended to avoid conflict. Nomads could be very individualistic, charismatic, and anti-authoritative.
It’s quite likely that your personality contains dominant characteristics from one of these three groups, while also containing some traits from the remaining two groups.
No one group is more important than the other two. Yet, as you become more aware of the traits you possess as a Warrior, Settler or Nomad, you may find yourself wondering how you can become a better parent, be more creative or be more decisive by adopting characteristics from one of these three groups.
I invite you to explore this very important concept and to reach out to me with any of your thoughts or questions. I’ll be revealing even more ideas about this in the near future.
With the evidence of addiction surrounding us every day, I wonder why we don’t try to understand its mechanisms more deeply; perhaps because it’s so deeply rooted in our culture and our families.
The causes of inner conflict
From a biological standpoint, addiction disrupts our need to maintain “homeostasis,” a neurologically balanced system throughout our brain and body. Through the process of addiction, our brain is constantly overstimulated. Once we’re in this cycle, we’ve created a “new normal” (which is called allostasis.) As you can imagine, navigating between the “old normal” (homeostasis) and the “new normal” (allostasis) produces great inner conflict, both physically and psychologically.
Over time, you’ve heard me describe the powerful benefits of BrainWorking Recursive Therapy® (BWRT) in treating anxiety disorders ranging from childhood trauma, depression and phobias (such as agoraphobia). Here, the addictive mind overstimulates the “fight or flight” mechanism of the reptilian brain. Consider the example of someone who’s begun to use cocaine on a regular basis. As their health and behavior decline over time, their core identity begins to change radically.
Addressing fundamental issues
BWRT addresses this fundamental issue around the client’s change in their identity, resulting in their addictive behavior. Naturally, during the first few sessions, many issues are explored with the client concerning their behavior and beliefs before the occurrence of the addiction. Often people have suffered from multiple traumatic incidents. If so, these issues will be addressed later, at the proper time.
As the client yearns to embrace their desire to be healthy, more confident, and comfortable in their skin, BWRT is utilized to integrate their final transition into a more optimistic life.
Before my introduction to BWRT, I met with a client suffering from serious drug addiction on a weekly basis. Meanwhile, he also attended group meetings. Two years later, I ran into him at a shopping mall. He was radiant. He looked and behaved like a completely different person. All of this was a result of support he had received in several areas.
As we all know, Alcoholics Anonymous, founded almost 85 years ago, has had great success for many years. Today, new therapies such as BWRT address addiction with a fresh, contemporary perspective, providing the individual a chance to facilitate a speedy recovery, and rediscover themselves as a whole person.
Would you like to explore the power of BWRT? Schedule a complimentary session today.
Life is Precious
We live in extraordinary times. Yet, it’s not very easy. It seems us humans haven’t exactly been the best stewards of our environment. Nor are we doing a great job of getting along with one another. Fortunately, this may be one of those times when extraordinary changes emerge from the chaos.
Which is why my spirits rose when I ran across one of Churchill’s famous quotes:
“Success is not final. Failure is not fatal. It is the urge to continue that counts.”
But it was the second part of that quote that impacted me the most: “Failure is not fatal.” We may fail once; perhaps more than once. Yet success will eventually push through. More importantly, when success rushes in, like someone who’s just narrowly escaped from a near-fatal exit, how will you spread the message that yours was a game-changer…that it somehow broke the conventional rules, establishing a new normal for what we can experience in the future?
Feeling the Pain
Two presenters from South Africa stunned me when I attended the Second Annual BWRT Congress in London this past May. It’s not just about violence; it’s that violence is a daily part of life in the townships where the poor and disenfranchised live. Unfortunately, children are often the victims. It was evident the South Africans attending the conference felt the pain while trying to be upbeat.
BWRT therapy can help with emotional trauma
That’s why I was so impressed when Bradley Knight, a school psychologist, used BWRT therapy to de-traumatize a young girl who went to buy food for her sister and grandmother. For safety reasons, she locked the apartment door. When she returned home, she discovered the flat had caught fire. Unfortunately, both had perished in the unexpected fire.
Traditional talk therapy might take many sessions to lower such intense trauma sensations within a client. However, within a few sessions of BWRT, Bradley helped her overcome the sensations of terror and panic she was experiencing. A few weeks later, he visited her and found that, remarkably, she was much calmer, and now felt safe.
Major Basil May, a clinical psychotherapist in the South African National Army, routinely uses BWRT therapy amongst the military and veterans for grief issues, addiction and anger management.
Like a flower blooming in the middle of the sidewalk, HOPE can spring in the most unlikely of places.
And that day gave me more hope than I had bargained for.
Hypnosis for Public Speaking
Years ago, I recall noticing how monotonous my voice was during a narration for a corporate video project. I wasn’t impressed with myself, so I re-recorded it.
Later, an even more poignant memory surfaced: speaking in front of 45 people and almost fainting in front of them. THAT was frightening. Feeling the blood rushing from my brain while struggling for the next sentence was no picnic. I would guess some of you may know this feeling…
Have you ever admired the voice of someone who projected a great warmth, sense of integrity or authority?
Learn how to modulate your voice
You may not be remotely interested in speaking before an audience (most of us aren’t!) But look at it this way: you’re speaking to an audience constantly – your spouse/partner, your kids, boss, co-workers, and friends. Furthermore, you may have a creative project or even a larger vision for the future you’d like to articulate to people. This requires engaging them by learning how to modulate your voice, and creating a rhythm or cadence to each sentence, thus naturally creating curiosity to hear more. Hypnosis for public speaking can help.
Craft your message
If you’re in business, either as a solopreneur, team player or representing a company, you most likely want to craft your message as powerfully and concisely as possible. By slowly whittling away every extraneous detail and focusing only on the essentials, you’ll find yourself speaking from your core confidence. It’s this deeper level of self-confidence that engages your sense of authority towards your kids because you’re speaking from that place of which you know is absolutely true.
Relax your body
I’ve worked with clients using hypnosis for public speaking along with other techniques to enable them to relax their body, focusing on the throat and facial muscles, while projecting authenticity. Together we focus on deep breathing, engaging with their audience, and being totally real, at the moment.
Brain Working Recursive Therapy (BWRT)
Brain Working Recursive Therapy (BWRT) has also created stellar results in enabling clients to project great self-confidence and professional knowledge of their field. In fact, one of my clients received a promotion immediately after her presentation!
Have you had an amazing experience speaking to an individual or an audience you’d like to share? If so, please respond and let me know!
To Your Success!
When you think of your memory, what do you associate with it? Is your memory razor sharp, or do you occasionally forget where you left your favorite novel? The subject of memory is a very long one, and fairly complex, from a neuroscientific standpoint.
We know memories can vanish due to dementia, or even a traumatic car accident. The question I’d like to pose to you today is: “What if forgetting something that caused great pain – such as a romantic relationship, or long-term abuse – could make you happier, would you do it?”
On several occasions, I have worked with clients to create “hypnotic amnesia” over ending a troublesome relationship. It worked like a charm. When someone is truly willing, they can put the past far behind them.
There are times, however, when a person is under such intense psychological pressure, that a totally new approach is needed before they experience relief.
A few months ago, a man came to see me. He had been very depressed his entire life, having been raised as a child of a schizophrenic mother and workaholic father. Because of this, his life was far from normal. He could not invite friends into his home, and no one came to cheer him on at football games. Eventually, his mother passed away.
Simply put, he wanted to disassociate himself from his past and move forward.
Prior to our session, I spoke with him about the effectiveness of Brain Working Recursive Therapy (BWRT), and how it swiftly “short-circuits” the anxiety response he used to have every time he looked back on his childhood. There was now an opportunity to create, using his own words, a completely different approach towards his life from this moment forward. Effectively, new neural pathways were being created in his brain, generating new thoughts of a life full of exploration and deep relationships.
One week later, he called to tell me he felt completely different. Once, he tried to revert to memories from his former life, but they never arose. He was feeling so optimistic about his future, that he was even planning on applying for a college scholarship. An immense weight had been lifted from his shoulders.
Have you ever wondered how you might want to break an ingrained habit, a belief, or even change directions in your life? If so, consider how powerful BWRT is as a vehicle for transforming your life.